Expectations and Happiness

I was remembering a conversation with an old friend today. A little more than two decades ago, I found myself arguing that expectations lead to disappointments. Expecting that when you are doing something that you believe will benefit you, that you will have results makes a lot of sense; until it doesn’t. It is when it doesn’t that we find ourselves disappointed. Sometimes we get so focused on what the result will be that we miss out on the activity. There are so many people who work so hard to amass wealth and miss out on enjoying their lives. I believe that is where the saying “stop, to smell the roses” came from. There are so many people who want to be in a relationship so badly that they lose themselves in the process and hating the person they are with for not loving them enough.

When was the last time that you did something just to do it? We are all socialized to achieve a goal. From the day we are born, we are expected to be somebody, by our parents, our teachers, our friends, or maybe by us. And when there is no expectation, we find unhappiness for not growing to our potential.

When does our expectation become the hindrance to our happiness? 

Melinda Drake, LCSW (CA, NY, & HI), LISW CP & AP (SC)

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